I understand that birth control is to keep people from having children, for various reasons, “we’re waiting til we have more money. We’re waiting until we finish school”. I get it. But this video took it way too far. I saw this video, sans sound, whilst ironically running my post pregnancy a$$ off at the gym today. Just watch it, and then you can view my very vitriolic opinion after the jump.
Please note: It’s not gross or scary. Just incredibly condescending, misogynistic, and stereotypical.
As a woman who has had two children, (and had them at a young age), I am highly offended by this video. I am offended by the implication that by not using birth control, and subsequently having children, I have somehow missed out on the finer things of life. Graduate degrees, trips to Paris, multiple partners who play guitar and wear fedora’s. Shirt dresses.
If I knew the ad agency that created this piece of misogynistic crap, I’d walk into their board room, and slap each one of them in the face. What is this, 1960?
It’s true, I haven’t been to Paris. I haven’t had a picnic in a waterfall lately. I don’t have a graduate degree. My life is not ‘missing’ anything. I pursue my dreams, I paint every day, and work out as often as I like. I have romance in my life. I have adventure. Thanks to my own motivation to not be an idiot, I study topics that interest me, like painting, and food and classical literature, in the free time I have in my day. I’m married to a wonderful man who encourages me, and sacrifices his time and energy to let me pursue any and all of my dreams.
Graduate degrees don’t keep you warm at night, honey. And I bet my husband is a lot more fun at parties.
I am not out at bars. I am not in clubs. I do not pole dance (though I suppose I could if I wanted to…) I am not on the red eye to Europe. That does not mean I am not free, and I object strenuously to the implication that children are a weight around my neck, the reasons that I can’t have it all and that birth control is the magic pill to make my life rosy and restful and wonderful.
I do have it all. I’m doing the one thing only women can do: I’m having and then, weirdly enough, raising my own children. While it would be nice to have a tad more sleep, or maybe a few more date nights, I wouldn’t trade one moment with my kids for all the waterfall related picnics in the world.
I just can’t say enough how fast this video put my knickers in a twist. I feel sorry for anyone that falls for this clearly skewed view of what it means to be a successful woman.
Shoot. Makes me want to go out and get pregnant again, put on my shirt dress, grab a cute bag, and give that ad agency the finger.